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Our Dark Side

shadow

Ever had a thought so terrible that you are too ashamed to even admit produced it?  It’s like someone or something momentarily hijacked your brain waves.  It happens to all humans, and some have coined this phenomenon our shadow self.  It’s human nature to battle with duality.  The Jekyll and Hyde affect.  The battle front against inner demons have kept psychologists in business for many years.

The problem is, there may be no problem at all.  Being human means duality.  Only God possesses a truly unified consciousness of love.  Because we have free will, we have the ability to create a consciousness or thought that is the opposite of God, or the opposite of unity.  The best definition of this thought product is fear.

God had a thought, and here we are.  We had a thought that differed from God’s view, and hell was created as it is the opposite of God.  Hell is the manifestation of duality (good versus evil).  A thought started it all.  Thoughts are things, don’t forget that.

So what do we do with this self-created hell?  In the book The Shadow Effect by Deepak Chopra, Debbie Ford, and Marianne Williamson, we are given solutions.  Often solutions are sought via religious texts, activist groups, and political righteousness.  Unfortunately these cultivate an “us” versus “them” mentality, which is the opposite of God or unity.  As I said earlier, God is all encompassing and is unified in love.  The moment duality or “us” versus “them” is created, the shadow is ignited to grow.

There is nothing wrong with groups that uphold love and gather in servitude and kindness but one must keep the mind focused on unity and understanding as oppose to defeating evil.  Victor and victim depict duality, which supports the shadow; however, understanding and unity are not bipolar and support God consciousness.

Solutions to unify with, accept, and illuminate the shadow will bring us closer to God consciousness.

The shadow is understood as:

  • The secret, dark side of yourself you refuse to acknowledge as part of you
  • Any habits you wouldn’t admit you have
  • All of our fears, worries, anxieties, guilt, and shame
  • The side of us that wants to place blame
  • Isolation

Unifying the shadow is understood as:

  • Acknowledge it exists, and is indeed a part of you
  • Releasing judgement and forgiving the shadow
  • Moving on with your life, focusing on positive projection
  • Focusing on unity and collective well-being

Some may ask, “What is projection?”  Projection are feelings you place on others that are really your own.  An extremely joyful person projects joy, which enables that person to see joy in other people.  An extremely fearful person projects fear, which enables that person to see fear in other people.

You may then ask “how can I focus on unity?”  Unity is love, and a knowingness that really as humans we share experiences and thoughts.  My pain is felt by all humans and my joy is celebrated by all.  The knowingness that we are all experiencing together, there is no isolation.

Chopra D, Ford D, Williamson M.  The Shadow Effect.  Harper Collins Publishing.  New York, New York.  2010.

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Catastrophizing: Why is it ALWAYS so bad?

Last week on @LoveinActionTV on the Periscope app my sister and I talked about PTSD.  Closely linked to PTSD is catastrophizing.  These two are similar to the chicken and egg theory.  Many catastrophizers experience PTSD and many people with PTSD are catastrophizers.  So what is catastrophizing anyway?

Catastrophizing is thinking something is much worse than it actually is.  Guilty as charged.  We all do it but some people get stuck in a catastrophic wheel unable to pull the breaks, stop, and get off, which tailspins catching a multitude of other problems along the way such as:

  • Poor interpersonal relationships
  • Missed opportunities and underachievement
  • Hopelessness
  • Irrational thought patterns
  • Constant pity parties and disappointment
  • Chronic or uncontrollable pain
  • Anxiety, depression, negative mood
  • Illness
  • Suicidal ideation

I see this situation all the time in my practice as a physical therapist.  When treating acute or chronic pain, the person’s outlook on their ability to improve, heal, and move on speaks more to their prognosis than the actual diagnosis.  Those who constantly think about the situation, depend on others to give them answers, and allow one injury to segue to multiple tend to have poor outcomes no matter how simple the medical and PT diagnosis may be.

These problems can be classified into three major categories, which identifies those exhibiting catastrophizing behaviors about a situation or the future:

  • Magnification: Having fear that a situation will worsen
  • Rumination: Unable to stop thinking about the situation
  • Helplessness: The feeling that you have no power to change or improve the situation

Simple techniques get out of catastrophizing:

  • You become aware that you’re doing it!
  • Fake it. Visualize the best possible outcome and begin to act, talk, and be the reflection of greatness.
  • Take charge. Be an advocate for yourself, empower yourself as your ultimate healer.
  • Draw a line between catastrophe and something very unfortunate that you can deal with.
  • Meditate, breathe, and pray. This will increase your ability to cope with negative situations.

References

Boyls A.  What is Catastrophizing?-Cognitive Distortions  www.psychologytoday.com/blog/in-practice/201301/what-is-catastrophizing-cognitive-distortions

Grohol JM.  What is Catastrophizing?  https://psychcentral.com/lib/what-is-catastrophizing/

Quartana PJ, Claudia MC, Edwards, RR.  Pain catastrophizing:  a critical review.  Expert Rev Neurother.  2009 May; 9(5): 745-758. Doi:10.1586/ERN.09.34

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How to Heal Yourself: A quick crash course

As a physical therapist, my career is to help people discover what needs to be done to heal. There are however several concepts I use over and over that can be taught in a preventative way and administered independently. Every person possesses and is made of healing energy. Therefore, every person has the ability to heal themselves to some degree. A skilled therapist should always encourage and teach the patient how to maintain therapeutic gains. This blog was inspired by two books I am reading: Becoming a Supple Leopard by Dr. Kelly Starrett and Dying to Be Me by Anita Moorjani. The important thing about self-healing is that you have to practice it every day. I’m a bit of a hypocrite in saying this but at least try MOST of the time…I’ve noticed a difference with this approach and am striving to make it an everyday occurrence. Below I’ve outlined several techniques I use to self-heal:

Physical Therapist are skilled practitioners who utilize joint mobilization to regain functional, pain free mobility. In the absence of severe impairments, a healthy person may be able to administer joint mobility techniques to prevent injury and to make athletic gains.

Foam Rolling: I think the most universal piece of equipment for mobility and pain reduction is the foam roll. You can pretty much hit it all with the roller. Smaller, pin pointed areas are a bit more difficult to target. The most important thing to remember about foam rolling is to concentrate on a specific area for a bit. You don’t want to roll your entire spine or body at once. Pick a segment no more than 6 inches or so, and hang out until the tissue releases (this may take up 2 minutes or more–for me, it’s AT LEAST 40 seconds but may vary by person). There are about a million things and ways to roll. I’d search the internet and find some you feel are right for you.

**Rolling can be very uncomfortable, it’s important to breath, relax, and find your happy place. I promise, you will feel so much better once the tissue releases.

Lacrosse Ball and Shiatsu: Rolling on the lacrosse ball allows a targeted release. I use the ball if I’m trying to release trigger points around the shoulder blades, mobilize a rib or specific spinal segment, and mobilize the shoulder. If you can’t fathom the idea of being active anymore in one day, I recommend a shiatsu massage pillow that allows you to be more passive in the mobilization. I use my shiatsu pillow about once a week to release tension in my neck and shoulders.

Yoga (Yin Yoga): Many, if not all, of the mobilization positions are adapted from traditional yoga poses. You may not be able to fully get into each pose but simply do what your body will allow. Modifications such as props, pillows, and foot stools can be used so that you can hang out for a while to reach the release we are looking for. YouTube has great beginner Yin yoga videos that I’ve used effectively. Pick the video that suits your body.

Self-Mobilization: Some of you may be totally turned off by anything CrossFit related but I’M TELLING YOU Dr. Starrett is a physical therapist who has developed a series of joint mobilizations that REALLY WORK and can be done outside of the clinic. They are grounded in the same principles PTs all over the world use. Like I said, a healthy person can safely perform these to reduce pain, increase range of motion, and improve athletic performance.

Flossing, Cross Friction, and Scar Massage: When muscles are tethered down due to scaring, or tightness associated with habitual postures, trigger points, and chronic inflammation it is important to restore the natural glide between our skin, fascia, and muscles. Nothing is meant to be stuck together. Voodoo flossing, cross friction massage, and scar massage all target the restoration of soft tissue gliding. The principles are pretty simple and you can google these techniques to learn more. Anyone with a significant scar should definitely make sure that thing is moving adequately.

Energy Healing: The power and ability to heal ultimately lies within us. Negative thoughts, feelings, and emotions can quickly manifest to disease. Being disconnected from your God self and tethered to your earth self creates a path toward destruction. Worldly things are destructible but heavenly are eternal. We have the ability to harness the eternal and utilize high vibrational energy to evoke healing and ease. Anita Moorjani in her book describes a near death experience that illuminated her life and life purpose. Love and knowing that we are all connected residing in God’s presence is key. By truly believing this alone can raise your vibration and decrease disease. Anita does not describe specific techniques but encourages living life fearlessly.

I truly believe positive thinking can change illness. I did not say cure but change it. Again, there are many, many ways to improve your thinking without a near death experience. Mediation and prayer are a great start, realizing that no matter what state you are in, you have the ability to help and create positive change in people…you are so valuable to this universe! Chakra balancing, Reiki, Kundalini yoga, and other energy healing practices exist and may aide you in discovering your higher self and purpose.